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The Extra Zest to Life

Saturday, June 20th, 2009

The Family Environment/ the extra zest and zing to life

When we refer to the word environment we associate it instantly with living conditions within and outside The extra zest to lifethe home. On deeper level environment constitutes the entire process of changes we experience while we grow, of conditions, physical mental and emotional, people, neighborhood, natural geographical conditions and to an extent the social and economic environment too. Our cultural fabric and its evolution through times affect our lives.

Socio-economic conditions to a large extent determine our lifestyle, the amount of time we spend with family, there is no such thing as quality time if we have very little of it to begin with. If we are not present at the right needed time no other can compensate it. Taking your family on a holiday does not make up for your absence in the growing years of your children; for that you have to make space at that time. Our chase to accumulate enough to keep ourselves in comfort zone leaves little or no time for family. It is absolutely necessary to squeeze in those precious moments as and when we can to bond with our flock. We all need a comfortable life; what better if we can add some zest and zing to it. Since charity begins at home here are some pointers. Even if you can use a few you sure will experience the change around

  • Having breakfast together
  • Attending school functions
  • Maintaining a diary of family events, birthdays, anniversaries etc.
  • Taking time out to sit with your parents
  • Involve elders and parents in decision making; it’s very important to use their value of experience and it also makes them feel worthwhile
  • Visiting relatives if you happen to visit their hometown; even if it is for a few minutes
  • Playing or swimming with family
  • Playing indoor games on holidays
  • Making plans together
  • Taking suggestions from children when planning holidays
  • Taking note if any family member is quiet or self absorbed (it can avert something likely to cause a lot of harm in future)
  • Organize Karaoke with family or at family functions; its fun
  • Cooking together and involving your children in the process
  • A hug, a pat on the back or a smile at bed time can go a long way in creating bonds whose strength will amaze you
  • Avoid relating your own experiences if someone is excitedly telling you something
  • Do not jump to conclusion with insufficient data available; it makes you judge other people
  • Never scold or punish children if they make a mistake; point out the consequences to them they will never repeat them
  • Allow your children to make small mistakes; generally it’s only in matters pertaining to using cosmetics, a shade of clothing, eating or not eating food, over sleeping or may be the study time spent watching television; remember they can learn only by experience. The consequences of these mistakes will be smaller than when they falter as adults.
  • Believe in setting an example; for it is easier to change one self than others
  • Act and stop reacting
  • Be proactive in making plans for the family
  • Appreciate verbally what you like all things are not just understood
  • Talk out problems; solutions are round the corner normally
  • If talking is difficult or impossible about problems write and communicate
  • Never run down your children before others; it hurts their self-respect; talk to them in private instead; it makes them feel secure
  • Avoid sibling enmity by checking yourself of praising one too much; it demeans the other by default; celebrate instead the achievement of one so that the other feels proud too